Friday, September 16, 2011

Her husband's mother ..she's family ... Not !!!..

I have a super daughter in-law whom I love very much..I just don't understand why she dislikes me ...I know that sounds harsh .. but after over five years of being married to my oldest son .. you can't help but see the truth .. how many times I've called and left messages only to have my son return the calls. I'm getting older but not senile ( yet ).
We're about to have a GRAND BABY soon.. I am so thrilled !! yet at the same time very sad .. how could this be you ask ? I was driving home from work and after a brief conversation with my son .. I wondered if my daughter in-law's mother got called daily about the grand baby .. I can imagine the first day .. mom we're pregnant !!! and the conversation probably went on for minutes to hours that was approx 8 months ago ..
I'm quite sure since then ,,oh mom we heard the baby's heart beat . mom I just sent you the first sono.. mom it's a boy !!! look at 4th sono etc.. isn't this just wonderful !! and it should by all means be with a daughter and mother... but has for the mother in-law
well why should she need to know any of this it's not her family ..it's mine .

She's right in away .. who am I but her husband's mother . Working at a hospital for so many years .. there's lots of pain and sadness , Then you have the precious moments when family gather in the waiting room , from grandma's to granddads to uncle so & so ,auntie Sue to little cousins .. families all excited waiting, some knitting , some napping,some kidding each other on .. some repeating to the toddlers your baby sister will be here soon etc..
Just the joy on their faces would delight me ... I always say if hospitals could only be in business for having babies what a wonderful world this would be..
I always wanted a family that was close and loving .. but I've got a small family here in Texas , two boys, daughter in-law and sometimes cranky father in-law, a sweet girl with youngest son, a loving Husband from God ... I'm grateful for my little family and thankful.
Will I be bless to be part of my grandson's life ... I don't think so ..
Because I'm just her husband's mother ,.........not family ..that's why.

1 comment:

Rachel said...

I am sorry this is the way you feel. I have had you into our home repeatedly and I hope you know you are always welcome.
Rachel